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August 2025
Club Events
Seattle Social Club Plays Pickleball! Bitter Lake Courts, 13035 Linden Ave N, Seattle, WA August 10th @ 4:30 PM Come out and join us for an afternoon of pickleball with the Seattle Social Club. We’ve got six courts reserved and we’ll all rotate in and play some fun games of pickleball! Have no idea how to play but want to check out what the hype is? We’ll teach you all you need to know! We’ll have paddles and balls for you to use or bring your own! All ticket proceeds will be donated to the Seattle Metro Pickleball Association for Pickleball for all at Green Lake! |
![]() | Board Game Night Old Stove Gardens, Ballard August 12th @ 6:30 PM Come hang out at Old Stove Gardens in Ballard for a fun-filled evening of board games with friends and fellow game enthusiasts! We’ll have all the classics plus some fun new ones. Feel free to bring your own games! This is intended for everyone, whether you’re single or not! No Ticket Required! |
Lounge Thoughts
Hot girl (or boy) summer is coming to close and you know what that means! Cuffing season is rapidly approaching! Many of you may be wondering “How can I approach dating again and ensure the best success”. Well I heard some advice this weekend that I thought was pretty great, so I thought I’d share it here with some of my own thoughts.
Now, we’ve all heard the advice that confidence is king and that people are attracted to other confident people. But what does it mean to be confident? How can you be confident when also being vulnerable? It turns out there are five easy things you can do that will allow you to be confident and will attract other people that are worth your time and keep them interested. So here it goes:
Tip #1: Be Open
Dating is hard. We’ve all had terrible experiences where we open our hearts just to have someone squash it in the long run. It sucks, it hurts and it causes all of us to put our guard up around new people. The problem is that being guarded causes us to unnaturally slow down connections with new people and prevents us from finding a partner who fits us. So instead: Be Open! Be vulnerable. Be open about your desires, your needs, what you like, what you don’t like. Most importantly, be open about your interest. Learn from the past but don’t let it seep into new connections going forward. And then watch and see how someone responds. They don’t respond well to your needs? They don’t match the level of interest you’re putting in? Then it’s time to withdraw your energy and find someone who does! Go find someone who can also be open with you!
Being open allows you to easily filter for those that are gonna match your energy and your weirdness and it prevents you from wasting your time with those not worthy of it. Authenticity breeds authenticity, so if you’re open with your dates, they’ll be naturally inclined to be open with you and you can both decide on whether the connection is actually there. Just don’t trauma bond!
Tip #2: Be flirty, be authentic
Your authenticity is you. It is the filter for whether someone is a good match for you! If you’re interested, show it! If you want to flirt, flirt! Send that flirty text, thell them how they make you feel in the moment. Give them the opportunity to step up and match your authenticity and energy. If they can’t, that’s great, you know they probably aren’t the one for you and you can move onto the next one.
Don’t be afraid of rejection! Rejection is just someone respectfully letting you know, they aren’t good for you! So if you are a little flirty or you are just being you and someone says they’re not interested, they’ve done you a favor! You can instead move on to finding someone who matches your authentic energy and flirts!
Being your authentic self with your dates is the best filter for whether someone is a good match for you. You can’t escape who you are and neither can they! By leading with who you are, you both get to make a decision on whether your energy matches theirs instead of wasting time learning it way after someone catches feeling and end in heartbreak. It also has the added benefit of allowing your dates to be more comfortable being who they are.
Tip #3: Be THE expert at showing interest.
We are all used to the advice of playing it coy or hard to get. And what does that do for us? Well, amazingly, it produces a lot of amateur mind readers, or at least people who think they can read minds! All these amateur psychics go out and overthink and try to decipher how the other person is feeling, whether their interested, whether they’re doing too much, etc.
It’s 2025 and we’re doing away with all the telepathy! We’re showing interest when someone makes us happy. When we’re feeling flirty, we’re sending a flirty text (respectfully) or we’re making a flirty comment(again respectfully). On a date we’re brushing up arms and shoulders, making light touches. We’re making eye contact and smiling. We’re showing interest!
Showing interest gives the other person an easy go signal to show interest back! They then feel comfortable to show you how they feel. They flirt back, they let you know where you stand. Boom! Just like that amateur mind reading profession is out of business!
Now what if you’re showing interest and they’re not matching your energy or they’re not flirting back? Well then you get to use your new found power and you respectfully withdraw your energy and focus it on someone else! In 2025, we only have time for those willing to be authentic and match our effort. We don’t settle for lack of interest.
An added bonus of showing interest is that people like knowing they are the reason someone is feeling good or happy. They’ll then start to respond in kind and continue to pursue you as much as you pursue them!
Remember, Be THE expert in showing interest, and watch the good vibes that come your way!
Tip #4: Date w/ no worries!
Dating shouldn’t be stressful! It should be about getting to know someone new and having fun! So this year we’re all about the Hakuna Matata in life. We’re going to go with the flow, we’re going to be calm, and see where things go!
We’re not going to focus on the outcome or where things are headed. We’re ok with taking things slow and allowing time for things to build. We’re ok with this because we know that if someones not matching our energy or they’re withdrawing, we can always go out there and direct our energy elsewhere. We know we have a fulfilling life with lots of friends and that a partner or situation is not worth it if they’re adding stress in our lives.
We’re going with the flow and evaluating the situation in the moment. We ask ourselves “Am I enjoying my time with this person at this moment?”. “Am I looking forward to seeing them again?” If yes, then we’ll keep it going and have fun together! We’re gonna see where the flow takes us! We’re calm, we’re cool, and we’re collected.
However, while we’re going along with the flow, we’re not gonna allow ourselves to be mistreated or put up with low interest! If you find yourself not feeling good, or confused or worse you suddenly discovered new psychic powers forcing you to mind read, then we’re going to change things up and reevaluate. We’re gonna change directions. We’ll direct our energy and interest to someone else. We’re going to make sure that we’re always enjoying the moment at any given time. You have a full life and any one person or situation taking away your joy is not something you’ll put up with.
Tip #5: Believe in yourself from top to bottom
You need to believe deep down that you are loved, you deserve attention, you are good enough just by being you, and nobody is going to make you earn it. You don’t work for love or attention. You are already loved because you are your authentic self and people will respond in kind to you believing it. You need to love yourself enough to know deep down that you deserve it no matter what you do. You don’t need external proof that you are loved. You know that you don’t have to do too much or show too much interest in someone to get it. It already exists, you already have it inside you!
Any person or situation that makes you feel like you have to earn it is not worth you time. You love yourself enough to know that you won’t be treated that way. And you’ll walk away from anyone who makes you doubt this.
Always remember, you deserve love because you are you. You should realize how powerful it is to be loved for being you. Once you see it, you’ll quickly see how crazy it is that you ever settled for less. When you bring this feeling of knowing you deserve it and that you are a prize to your dates, you’ll start to see your dates responding to this confidence. You know you’re awesome. You’re showing them how awesome you are. And they want to be with someone who is awesome! They’ll be more interested and they’ll want to pursue you even more because they can’t turn away from you confidence.
Always remember you are loved just for existing as you are. You can feel like you’ve been through the worst things in life, or done the worst actions. It does not change the fact that you are loved and deserve someone who will reinforce this feeling in you. All you have to do is believe it.
Thats a wrap!
Now at the beginning of this I said there were five easy steps. Well I lied! These are all harder than they look! So go easy on yourself when you try them out. You probably won’t get it on the first or even second try. But I promise you keep trying to apply these, you’ll see a shift in your dating and everyday life. People won’t be able to resist you and the world will be your oyster!
Stay magnetic my friends.
Lucas Chaufournier
Time for fun!
This week’s Time for Fun is a social challenge! Your task, should you choose to accept it, is:
Challenge: Go on a date where you try out Tip 1: Be Open. Be vulnerable from the get go, be yourself, flirt, show interest, and see how you feel at the end of the date!